The Gospel and Marriage

The Gospel and Marriage

These notes go with part 6 of our Gospel Life Class

“There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.” Martin Luther


  1. Share the Fellowship of the Gospel


John 17:20 “I do not ask for these only, but also for those who will believe in me through their word, that they may all be one, just as you, Father, are in me, and I in you, that they also may be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me.  The glory that you have given me I have given to them, that they may be one even as we are one, I in them and you in me, that they may become perfectly one, so that the world may know that you sent me and loved them even as you loved me. Father, I desire that they also, whom you have given me, may be with me where I am, to see my glory that you have given me because you loved me before the foundation of the world”

1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

What we share most importantly is our union together in Christ. WE share our inheritance.

We share the gift of the Holy Spirit. We share the promises of the righteousness of Christ by faith.

We share the grace of God.

We share access to our heavenly Father and the ability to approach him together in prayer.

To often couples focus on their natural connections—preferences, interest or history, or if they are in the midst of a season of struggle, they dwell on their disappointments, their bitterness, their frustrations—but the sweetest things we have together often goes undiscussed and unappreciated when we are together.

May the fellowship, the partnership, the shared gift of the good news of Jesus Christ, bring marriages together…but it must be cultivated by regular conversation that is focused on the good news of Jesus Christ.

–To neglect the fellowship of the gospel and then be surprised at the ongoing struggle of conflict or challenging romance is a bit like checking everything in your care except for the empty fuel gauge and being surprised that it won’t start. Sharing in the gospel is the ultimate primary fuel of the Christian marriage momentum toward each other. It is the magnet the draws us when other attraction and interests and unity are at a low ebb.

-The gospel reminds that the person we are married to is a saved sinner, a sinner still, but a sinner who has received grace…and a grace that is worth celebrating together every day.

–Marriage is an adventure of grace…an adventure that is a party of celebrating God’s overflowing grace at work in each other’s lives…


  1. Show the Roles of the Gospel

“A truly Christian marriage starts with the reality that the institution of marriage does not belong to us. It belongs to God. He designed marriage, and his purposes for it are paramount.”


  1. Demonstrate the Love of the Gospel

Reflecting sacrificial love toward the least deserving.

The Joy in loving our spouse is found not in knowing what we will receive back from them, but rather in bringing honor to our Savior. If we take only delight in loving them when they are lovely…what credit is that to the gospel, even your pagan neighbor does the same…but if we love them when they are unlovely…when they are lazy or when they are spiteful or when they are out of shape or when they are forgetful, or when they are harsh…that brings glory to our Savior in Heaven…demonstrating that His spirit is truly at work within us.


“The gospel can fill our hearts with God’s love so that you can handle it when your spouse fails to love you as he or she should. That frees us to see our spouse’s sins and flaws to the bottom—and speak of them—and yet still love and accept our spouse fully. And when, by the power of the gospel, our spouse experiences that same kind of truthful yet committed love, it enables our spouses to show us that same kind of transforming love when the time comes for it.” Tim Keller


“The more Satan has endeavored to dishonor marriage, the more should we vindicate it from all reproach and abuse, that it may receive its due reverence.” John Calvin